“I’m sorry you feel that way.” – IS NOT A VALID APOLOGY.
“I’m sorry you feel that way.” – IS A PERSON APOLOGIZING FOR YOUR FEELINGS INSTEAD OF THEIR ACTIONS.
“I’m sorry you feel that way.” – IS A STATEMENT THAT SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT GIVE A FUCK WOULD SAY.
“I’m sorry you feel that way.” – IS THE REMARK OF SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR THEIR WORDS OR CHOICES.
“I’m sorry you feel that way.” – IS TOXIC AND GASLIGHTING ENERGY.
If you have an “I’m sorry you feel that way.” kind of person in your life, you should probably tell them to kick rocks and not look back.
Recently, an ex-friend of mine said those words to me. For the first time in my life, through all of our ups and downs, I finally dared to block her and cut it off for good. For some reason, I always held on to her. Mainly because of the duration of how long we’d been friends. Letting go of people is hard. Letting go of things is hard. But if those people and those things are not bringing you an absolute joy, it is a necessity to let. that. shit. go.
The thing is this: If someone says or does something that hurts you and you tell them that it hurt you, if they care about you they would try and make it better. They would try and fix the situation.
We are taught from a young age to clean up after ourselves, clean up our messes, and repair things that are broken. If you accidentally broke mom’s favorite coffee mug, or that baseball goes flying through your neighbor’s window how would they react? Naturally, they’d be upset. Being upset would be a normal response to a situation like this. How would YOU react? If mom or your neighbor says, “Hey, this is upsetting to me.
What will we do now?”, are you going to reply with:
“I’m sorry you feel that way.”
No one in their right mind is going to answer yes to that question.
The most appropriate thing to do would be to sincerely apologize and ask how to fix the situation. What is it about people that don’t allow them to admit that they are wrong? Is it because they have too much pride? Maybe it is because their ego is overpowering their every thought and action. The fact of the matter is, in this life, we don’t have time to figure people out.
If you are wrong, say so. If I am wrong I expect myself to own up to that. Being wrong is not bad. Being wrong means you are learning and growing. You cannot understand the value of being right if you don’t understand what it means to be wrong. Own your mistakes. Own your choices. Own your life. Apologizing to people is okay and in many cases necessary. It might not be mom’s mug or the neighbor’s window; It might be someone’s heart. Be kind and be good.